Sunday, December 30, 2012

5 killed in Oregon tour bus crash on I-84

LA GRANDE, Ore. (AP) ? A tour bus crash crashed Sunday on an icy stretch of interstate in Oregon, killing five people and injuring about 20 others, authorities said.

Police say the bus lost control around 10:30 a.m. on the snow- and ice-covered lanes of Interstate 84 in eastern Oregon. The bus crashed through a guardrail and went down an embankment a few hundred feet.

Rescue workers were using ropes to help retrieve people from the crash scene. State police said the charter bus was carrying about 40 people, but they did not say where the vehicle was traveling to or from.

The bus crash was the second fatal accident in Oregon on Sunday morning due to icy conditions. A 69-year-old man died in a rollover accident

State police have not released information on the company that owns the bus.

Associated Press

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Att Samsung Galaxy S3 - How to know if this is block ?




Yes...as long as it is unlocked you can use it with any carrier that provides a SIM card.

That is what I did. I use to be on ATT then I broke my contract to go with T-Mobile's partnered MVNO Solavei. It was a very easy transition.

While T-Mobile is still going through the re-farming stages and hasn't upgraded throughout St. Louis I still get EDGE in some spots and 4G in others because it is an ATT phone. That is something else you might want to think about if those are options for you when it comes to your phone and who the carrier will be.

Manny

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All eyes on them, Senate leaders seek fiscal deal

Senate Minority Leader Mitch McConnell, R-Ky. leaves the White House in Washington, Friday, Dec. 28, 2012, after a closed-door meeting between President Barack Obama and Congressional leaders to negotiate the framework for a deal on the fiscal cliff. The end game at hand, President Barack Obama and congressional leaders made a final stab at compromise Friday to prevent a toxic blend of middle-class tax increases and spending cuts from taking effect at the turn of the new year. (AP Photo/ Evan Vucci)

Senate Minority Leader Mitch McConnell, R-Ky. leaves the White House in Washington, Friday, Dec. 28, 2012, after a closed-door meeting between President Barack Obama and Congressional leaders to negotiate the framework for a deal on the fiscal cliff. The end game at hand, President Barack Obama and congressional leaders made a final stab at compromise Friday to prevent a toxic blend of middle-class tax increases and spending cuts from taking effect at the turn of the new year. (AP Photo/ Evan Vucci)

Senate Majority Leader Harry Reid of Nev. leaves the White House in Washington, Friday, Dec. 28, 2012, after a closed-door meeting between President Barack Obama and Congressional leaders to negotiate the framework for a deal on the fiscal cliff. The end game at hand, President Barack Obama and congressional leaders made a final stab at compromise Friday to prevent a toxic blend of middle-class tax increases and spending cuts from taking effect at the turn of the new year. (AP Photo/ Evan Vucci)

President Barack Obama pauses while he speaks to reporters in the Brady Press Briefing Room at the White House in Washington after meeting with Congressional leaders regarding the fiscal cliff, Friday, Dec. 28, 2012. (AP Photo/Charles Dharapak)

Senate Armed Services Committee Chairman Sen. Carl Levin, D-Mich., right, accompanied by the committee's ranking Republican, Sen. John McCain, R-Ariz., gestures during a news conference on Capitol Hill in Washington, Friday, Dec. 28, 2012, to discuss changes in Senate procedural rules. (AP Photo/Susan Walsh)

WASHINGTON (AP) ? Senate leaders rushed to assemble a last-ditch agreement to avoid middle-class tax increases and possibly delay steep spending cuts in an urgent attempt to find common ground after weeks of postelection gridlock.

An impatient President Barack Obama pressed top lawmakers to cut a deal before the year-end deadline, even one that falls short of the ambitions he and congressional leaders may once have harbored for a bigger deficit reduction package.

"The hour for immediate action is here. It is now," Obama declared.

Following a White House meeting Friday among Obama and congressional leaders, aides to Senate Republican leader Mitch McConnell of Kentucky and Senate Majority Leader Harry Reid, D-Nev., began racing against the clock for a bipartisan bargain.

The leaders could present legislation to senators as early as Sunday, with a vote possible on Sunday or Monday.

The guest list for the White House meeting included Reid, McConnell, House Speaker John Boehner, R-Ohio, and House Democratic leader Nancy Pelosi, D-Calif. But the key players were clearly Reid and McConnell, both of whom stayed behind briefly at the White House and huddled with their staffs and Obama's top legislative aide, Rob Nabors, in the West Wing Cabinet Room just outside the Oval Office.

Neither side expected compromise to be easy. However, McConnell and Reid voiced unexpected optimism that they could work toward a deal that could win support in both their camps.

Warned Reid: "Whatever we come up with is going to be imperfect."

Whatever manages to pass in the Senate, with its Democratic majority, would then face a second test in the Republican-controlled House.

Boehner, a Republican speaker who has struggled recently with anti-tax rebels inside his own party, said through an aide that he would await the results of the talks between the Senate and White House. A House vote could come as late as Wednesday, the final full day before a new Congress takes office.

Officials said there was a general understanding that any agreement would block scheduled income tax increases for middle-class earners while letting rates rise at upper-income levels.

Obama was sticking to his campaign call for increases above $250,000 in annual income, even though in recent negotiations he said he could accept $400,000.

The two sides also confronted a divide over estate taxes. Obama favors a higher tax than is currently in effect, but one senior Republican, Sen. Jon Kyl of Arizona, said he's "totally dead set" against it. Speaking of fellow GOP lawmakers, he said they harbor more opposition to an increase in the estate tax than to letting taxes on income and investments rise at upper levels.

But the estate tax was more likely to be used as a possible bargaining chip that Democrats could give away in exchange for higher rates for top earners and other Obama priorities.

Obama and Democrats want to prevent the expiration of unemployment benefits for about 2 million long-term jobless men and women, and there is widespread sentiment in both parties to shelter doctors from a 27 percent cut in Medicare fees.

Also likely to be included in the negotiations are taxes on dividends and capital gains, both of which are scheduled to rise with the new year. Also the alternative minimum tax, which, if left unchanged, could hit an estimated 28 million households for the first time and mean an average increase of more than $3,000.

The White House has shown increased concern about a possible doubling of milk prices if a farm bill is not passed in the next few days, although it is not clear whether that issue too might be included in the talks.

One Republican who was briefed on the White House meeting said Boehner made it clear he would leave in place spending cuts scheduled to take effect unless alternative savings were included in any compromise to offset them. In previous White House proposals, Obama has suggested finding enough cuts in government spending to put off the steeper cuts for up to six months.

Obama, speaking to reporters following his meeting with the congressional leaders, faulted a system that left crucial decisions to the last minute, a way of governing that he said the public finds "mindboggling."

"Outside of Washington nobody understands how it is that this seems to be a repeat pattern, over and over again," he said.

Still, Obama himself is part of the negotiating process, and his meeting with all four top leaders Friday was the first since Nov. 16. A phone call he placed Wednesday night to McConnell was the first the Republican leader had received from a Democrat on the fiscal talks since Thanksgiving.

Looking to add pressure on negotiators, Obama said he expects Reid to put legislation on the floor to prevent tax increases on the middle class and extend unemployment benefits ? an implicit challenge to Republicans to dare to vote against what polls show is popular.

The start of negotiations in the Senate marked a new endgame for discussions that have moved in fits and starts since the November election.

Boehner refused for weeks to accept any rate increases, and simultaneously accused Obama of skimping on the spending cuts he would support as part of a balanced deal to reduce deficits, remove the threat of spending cuts and prevent the across-the-board tax cuts.

Last week, the Ohio Republican presented a Plan B measure that would have let rates rise on million-dollar earners. That was well above Obama's latest offer, which called for a $400,000 threshold, but more than the speaker's rank and file were willing to accept.

Facing defeat, Boehner scrapped plans for a vote, leaving the economy on track for the cliff that political leaders in both parties had said they could avoid. In the aftermath, Democrats said they doubted any compromise was possible until Boehner has been elected to a second term as speaker when the new Congress convenes Thursday.

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Associated Press writers Alan Fram and Andrew Taylor contributed to this report.

Associated Press

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Saturday, December 29, 2012

Indian rape victim, whose attack sparked massive protest, dies (Americablog)

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UW-L communications alum receives top volunteer award in ...

Brad Quarberg

UW-La Crosse?s Brad Quarberg, ?85, is the 2012 CASE V Distinguished Service Award Recipient.

A UW-La Crosse mass communications and political science alum received the top honor awarded annually among educational advancement professionals in the Midwest region.

Brad Quarberg, ?85, 24-year CASE V volunteer and director of News & Marketing at UW-La Crosse, received the 2012 CASE V Distinguished Service Award, given annually to the district?s top volunteer. CASE is education?s leading resource for knowledge, standards, advocacy and training in alumni relations, communications, fundraising, marketing and related activities. Quarberg received the award during the CASE V & V1 Better Together Conference on Tuesday, Dec. 11, in Chicago.

?The way in which we communicate to our colleagues and market our programs and conference has changed significantly over the last 20 years, we are grateful that Brad has always put the district ahead of current trends and produced outstanding marketing materials through a variety of mediums,? explained Carmela Kranz, a member of the CASE V board of directors.

Quarberg began working in the University Communications Office three months after earning a bachelor?s degree at UW-L. He joined CASE V in 1988 and was invited to join the CASE V Board of Directors to become editor of the district?s quarterly newsletter in 1997. He eventually became responsible for all district marketing efforts, which he continued through 2012. Quarberg is one of only three people who have chaired the district conference more than once ? in both 2003 and 2004.

Quarberg has received CASE Circle of Excellence gold and bronze awards for conference promotions. He has also received Pride of CASE V awards. And he has served on the CASE V?s Financial Review Committee.

During the award reception, Quarberg thanked his ?three families,? including his immediate family, his co-workers and his ?family? within CASE.

?Little did I know back in 1997 that I was not just volunteering, but gaining an outstanding group of wonderful professionals ? many who would eventually become close friends and family,? Quarberg explained. ?You challenged me. You gave me responsibilities that stretched my comfort zone. And, you gave me confidence.?

The Quarberg file:

Along with coordinating UW-L?s news and marketing efforts, Brad Quarberg is the editor of the university?s alumni magazine and two of its colleges? alumni newsletters. He is the university?s public information officer liaison to the UW System and coordinates the university?s crisis communications, along with leading the recent branding initiative.

Quarberg is deeply involved in servant leadership in the greater La Crosse area. Among his service: La Crosse Festivals-Oktoberfest, Rotary International, Great Rivers United Way, Coulee Region Junior Achievement, La Crosse Area Day with the Milwaukee Brewers, Habitat for Humanity, Boy Scouts of America, Evangelical Lutheran Church in America and Western Wisconsin Juvenile Diabetes Research Foundation. He is a three-time Paul Harris Fellow.

See past CASE V Distinguished Service Award winners.

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Tech in 2012: Microsoft Disrupts BYOD, Lenovo Has the Right Mobile/PC Strategy

SiliconAngle news editor Kristen Nicole wraps up her three-part recap on the top consumer trends in 2012 with a discussion about mobile, including notable product launches and other big plays by leading vendors (full video below).

Kristen tackles Microsoft Surface first. She says that while the tablet may not have lived up to the more enthusiastic pre-launch sales expectations, the device is playing a key role in disrupting the BYOD space.? One of the main reasons companies resort to implementing pricey corporate network management solutions is because Apple?s restrictive ecosystem makes iPhones and iPads difficult to manage from a security and compliance standpoint, but this is not the case with Windows 8.

To learn more and to read the entire article at its source, please refer to the following page, Tech in 2012: Microsoft Disrupts BYOD, Lenovo Has the Right Mobile/PC Strategy- SiliconANGLE.com

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Friday, December 28, 2012

Worms turn metal into semiconductors

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Worms are useful in the garden and great for fish bait, but one of their talents has remained hidden ? until now. Scientists have discovered that worms can manufacture tiny semiconductors. ?

At King's College in London, researchers fed an ordinary red worm, Lumbricus rubellus, soil laced with metals. The worm produced quantum dots, nano-sized semiconductors that are used in imaging, LED technologies and solar cells. The experiment was published in the Dec. 23 issue of the journal Nature Nanotechnology.

The worms created these electronic components because of their ability to detoxify their body tissue. When worms ingest the metals, proteins in their body shuttle these "toxins" to tissues called chloragogen cells that are similar to a liver in mammals. In the case of?cadmium, a molecule called?metallothionein attaches to it to take it away.?Through several chemical steps the worm separates the metals from the organic molecules they are attached to and stores them in tiny cavities its body, but not forever: eventually whatever toxic metals the worm eats are excreted.?

Squirmy semiconductor factories
In the experiment the scientists spiked soil with cadmium chloride and sodium tellurite (sodium, telluride and oxygen). The ability of worms to process cadmium is well known, but it wasn't clear what they would do with the tellurium in the sodium tellurite.

The worms ended up making tiny particles of cadmium telluride, a crystalline compound that is also a semiconductor. Those tiny particles ? called quantum dots ? were then taken out of the worms' tissue. The dots themselves are only nanometers across. [Twisted Physics: 7 Mind-Bending Findings]

In biological imaging, quantum dots are used in place of dyes because they can be "tuned" to glow at specific wavelengths. Cadmium telluride dots, for example, glow green when hit with blue light. The researchers tested the dots on animal cells and found they worked as well as the ones created in laboratories.

The success doesn't mean that thousands of worms are to be sacrificed for dot-making, said co-author Mark Green, a reader in nanotechnology at King's College.

"The interesting bit is that semiconductor quantum dots, which emit light, were made in a living animal," he told Livescience via email. "The aim of the work wasn?t to come up with a new synthetic process of making dots that are better than bench-synthesized materials, it was just to see if we could do solid-state chemistry in a living animal ? and it appears we can!"

A dotty idea
Green said the idea occurred to him several years back when he was an Oxford University post-doctoral researcher. He heard a lecturer note that animals use certain proteins to get rid of toxic metals such as cadmium. Green realized he was doing something similar to make cadmium telluride quantum dots in the lab, sans worms.

He wondered if some extra chemical might spur worms to make their own cadmium telluride quantum dots.

"The big problem," he said, "was that I didn't know enough biology, and I could see immediately that trying to get the dots out of an animal would be a problem."

So Green shelved the idea for a few years, until he met Stephen St?rzenbaum, the lead author of the paper. St?rzenbaum told Green that he knew exactly where cadmium given to worms went: to the detoxifying chloragogen cells. Since the cadmium ? and thus the nanoscale dots ? would end up there, it would be relatively easy to get them out of the worm.

So they tried it. It worked.

"We were very surprised, didn't really expect it to work that easily," Green said.

The quantum dots Green and his team made aren't quite the quality of the lab-bench versions. That may change, though. "We'd like to think we can play around with some of the chemistry and make them better," Green said.

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Statue of praying Hitler in former Warsaw ghetto sparks emotion

WARSAW, Poland - A statue of Adolf Hitler praying on his knees on display in the former Warsaw Ghetto, the place where so many Jews were killed or sent to their deaths by Hitler's regime, is provoking mixed reactions.

The work, "HIM" by Italian artist Maurizio Cattelan, has been drawing visitors since it was installed last month, but some are angered by it.

One Jewish group, the Simon Wiesenthal Center, this week condemned the work's placement in the former ghetto as "a senseless provocation which insults the memory of the Nazis' Jewish victims."

However, many others are also praising it, saying it has a strong emotional impact that forces them to face the nature of human evil.

Even Poland's chief rabbi, Michael Schudrich, says it could have some educational value.

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Recall news

The following recall has been announced:

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CHILDREN'S DENIM JEANS

DETAILS: Falls Creek Kids infant and toddler denim jeans imported by Meijer Distribution Inc. of Grand Rapids, Mich.; sold exclusively at Meijer and HEB stores nationwide from June through November 2012. Falls Creek Kids infant and toddler, boys and girls denim jeans were sold in sizes 12M-5T. "Falls Creek Kids" is printed on a tag sewn on the inside back of the waistband. The jeans are denim; some have a pink star or heart graphic design stitched on the outside front and back of the jeans. The jeans also were sold with cargo-style pockets. There is label on the inside of the jeans near the front-left pocket that includes the date and location of production. The jeans were manufactured in China.

WHY: The snap on the front of the jeans may come loose and separate from the fabric, posing a choking hazard to young children.

INCIDENTS: None reported.

HOW MANY: About 140,500.

FOR MORE: Contact Meijer at 800-927-8699, or visit the firm's website at http://www.meijer.com .

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Thursday, December 27, 2012

Living With Depression Does Not Mean Accepting It | Ovarian ...

Depression takes hold quite suddenly, but may cause unprecedented havoc for individuals that don?t know the methods of living with depression. What?s more, it takes variations like the mild stress or extremely debilitating kind of severe clinical depression. In either case, every person is susceptible to depression and it?s really a matter of when it may strike. If you?re living with depression, you must realise that it is not your fault and you will go back to an average depression free life. It is a fact more and more now than previously within our history, increasing economic turmoil, job losses, diseases, and also the overall stresses of modern life which may have exposed humankind to the claws of depression and anxiety. This modern condition is merely now focusing on and fully understood. Approximately 60 % of the earth?s population have experienced, are experiencing, are or will experience some kind of depression in their lifetime, it is only prudent to master the secrets to managing depression right now.

Instances of depression are incredibly bleak or they are often like moments of madness, and might steal the life straight out from under us. Lots of people in depressive states which might be constantly living with depression findno reason to live at all and instead, life seems to them in the dark and vivid images of hopeless situations, empty hours, or painful experiences. Those are the moments when individual feel utterly alone in the world and carry plenty of problems and unanswered questions. To anyone living with depression day by day, what are the results inside individual overrides what goes on outside in the world and in society which turns the world in a dark prison. Nothing really matters when people think they are in bottomless pits therefore deep beyond rescue. In a bid to help individuals who are living with depression, medicine has defined it a mental disorder and recommended antidepressants. So how many individuals have taken these drugs, recovered temporarily, and then fallen again into depression? Must depression be taken only being an illness or is there a need to delve deeper and discover root causes and important allies? What makes people still living with depression? To start with classifying depression as illness alone denies people the chance to study from it. However, when depression can be regarded as a point of weakness, a point of change, and the moment to take another path in everyday life, then several doors open in the favor of the depressed, permitting them to face the approaching days with rejuvenated strength, wisdom, and endurance. Still how does conventional treatment fit into this puzzle?

Traditional and Natural Depression Treatment Could Ease Living With Depression

Most of the time, traditional medicinal practises will still only temporarily help a person but, taking stock of our life is essential for a greater tomorrow. Moreover, living with depression requires certain actions. First, you must produce a huge effort to keep relaxed and rested and also to think on your heartaches and also to find time to build your self-confidence up again. Living with depression doesn?t imply you need to isolate yourself! On the other hand, go out and try to socialize wherever possible! If however, you have a friend that is certainly living with depression, try remain by their side, supporting them with compassion just as they?d invariably do with you. Secondly, you must courageously tell yourself that it is simply a moment of transition, of experiencing life to know it better understanding that whatever you are going through is temporary. Accept your circumstances, weaknesses, and failures to enable you to overcome your depression quickly. Learning to face issues, facts, and problems is a good method of living with depression. The more you live in denial, the more are you planning to suffer. Be honest and own up weigh each of the sides of the situation, in order to find ways of overcome your negativity. Finally, discover whether you?re over-dependent upon others whether you copy what others do as opposed to making your personal decisions, and whether you truly have values to live on. Record your values down, make up your mind to live a pleasant life again, and stand up again just as one individual, a soul that is preparing to live as outlined by specific values and visions. Living with depression does not necessarily mean that you simply cannot reinstate your life to its true course. Never letting depression threaten to end your life but rather, aiming at ending depression in order to live life. It?s once again time to halt living with depression and return to just living a happy and fulfilling life.

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'This' Man Grew Up Wanting To Be Married | Black and Married With ...

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by Eric Payne ?|? on December 26th, 2012 ?|?

In late November I was in attendance at the Tyler?s Love and Life in Atlanta event. In fact, I was the event photographer as I?ve been for several of the Tyler New Media events over the past twelve months. During the engaging discussion on love and romance, I was struck by one of the featured panelist?s statements which I will paraphrase below:

Boys don?t grow up wanting to be married.

He went on to talk about little girls and their play wedding dresses and all the little fantasies that they have around a wedding and that boys just want to have that girl that is their friend, that will ride with them. And I am inclined to agree. I never once gave much thought to a wedding as a child. But something about his blanket statement didn?t sit well with me. And it took me a couple of days to figure it out: Personally, I?ve always wanted to be married.

Marriage Every Day

How could I not? First off, I saw marriage every day in my home. Even on the days my folks didn?t get along I wanted to be married. I just didn?t want to be married like them. And then there were days that I wanted multiple wives of different nationalities and backgrounds. A cousin informed me that unfortunately this was illegal in the United States. But even still, it was marriage that I wanted.

But what I wanted and what I got were too different things. Love, and even like avoided me for many years for no valid reasons. I was an ugly duckling, chided for my appearance and misunderstood for my shyness. Growing up, many of the girls I liked passed on me, preferring the more gregarious, muscular, personality-having types instead.

Love & Sex Are Not The Same

In college things went full circle. I had all but outgrown my youthful awkwardness and had evolved into a man ? who still wanted nothing more than real love from a woman. When I asked my first college love to be my girlfriend (yes, I actually asked) she told me she had a boyfriend back home and asked if we could just ?have fun together??in school. It wasn?t exactly a rejection, right? I actually considered her offer until another friend, a female best friend, strongly advised me, short of calling me crazy, not to, instructing me to ?never play second fiddle.? My young and impressionable mind and heart let those words sink in deep, so deep that I began to believe no one was to be trusted. I became ultra-suspicious and downright sinister if I felt someone was even hinting at taking advantage of me. I quickly became the king of the One Strike you?re out rule. I broke hearts before mine could be. I broke hearts just because. Then I crossed paths with an older woman, a twenty-two year old senior, who schooled me on how to selflessly love a woman. Then she left school and me to enter the real world.

Abandoned, alone and angry, but now officially ?trained? by a grown woman, from my perspective, I became downright lethal ? a master manipulator in the finer art of seduction, and even worse I never shared nor bragged to friends. But people talk and my reputation began to precede me well beyond the boundaries of my freshman class. But for all the ?fun? I was having there was a great emptiness inside me. No matter what the scenario or ?conquest? afterwards, I would typically feel broken and cheap. Little did I know then that I was suffering from a lack of love and only making matters worse by giving myself away for less than free to almost anyone who was interested. And because I wasn?t sharing, no one knew to tell me to stop or suggest there was a better way. Not that they would have. My peer group was a bunch of eighteen to twenty year old boys. There wasn?t much any of us could?ve done for each other at the time.

Enough Was Enough

By the time I was a senior I was over it: disgusted with myself and everyone around me. Profoundly sad that so women ?knew? me but didn?t know me at all. Mad at myself for bringing it all on myself. Frat brothers and friends looked at me like I was crazy when I talked about only wanting to make love unless I was in love. For women I was now the worst of all the guys ? the quiet one. No one ever knew my pain because I had done so much, in vain, to mask it with sex. No good woman was going to waste her time getting her heart broken by me so they just opted to pass the time. This followed me into adulthood where I evolved into ?the good time guy? ? the one you messed with when you want to be romanced and treated with respect, but not the one you stayed with. And of course, this led me down the dark path of adultery. I knew the risks but I took them anyway. I knew the bible verse too. As friends got married and divorced, cheated on their wives, etc., I simply didn?t get it. I would?ve given anything to have for a day what they couldn?t seem to appreciate at all. The final straw came when someone I truly cared for told me she would never fall in love again moments after being intimate. She was on the rebound from a divorce and speaking from her place of pain. She had no idea the impact of her words on me. I broke things off with her the next day and swore myself off women cold turkey. They weren?t the problem. I was. As fate would have it, the woman remarried and had a beautiful daughter. Such is life.

Eventually I got my act together when a wonderful woman found me while I was walking through midtown Manhattan on my lunch break. But it took me a long time to pull the trigger and pop the question. It angered her and she assigned all the appropriate terms to me: non-committal, indecisive and even immature. But what she thought was my condition were merely the symptoms of my longstanding hurt.

I don?t expect many men to openly express that they always wanted to be married. But I know as the person writing this post that one man did grow up wanting to be married. I wanted to be with that one person who was one with me. I saw it in my community and I valued it. I was too young and too much of a boy to know or care about the dresses and rings, but I did want that one woman to be mine, forever. I remember my first thoughts of this back from when I was in first grade. There have been plenty of hiccups and hurdles along the way, but that doesn?t change the fact I wanted a wife. How about you?

BMWK ? Do you agree with the blanket statement that boys don?t grow up wanting to be married?


About the author

Named a Top 50 Dad Blogger in 2011 by Cision Media & Babble.com, Eric writes about fatherhood, marriage and everything in between at Makes Me Wanna Holler ? Man, Dad, Husband. He recently appeared on CNN Headline News to discuss fatherhood and it?s impact on African American families.


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Unwed mothers call for Park's attention | THEAsiaN

Kim Jung-in (an alias), a public relations officer, knew it would be difficult to raise her one-month-old daughter alone. But determined to try, she ignored family members who pressured her to opt for adoption, just as they had told her to have an abortion.

?I was confident I could get a job and take care of her on my own,? recalled Kim, 36, of the turbulent period four years ago. ?But I needed time to find work and persuade my parents I could do that.?

Time and understanding, she would find, were not on her side.

Kim met her boyfriend while working abroad for a Korean firm. They wanted to marry but her family would not give their blessing without meeting the prospective groom first. After they learned she was pregnant, the man convinced her to quit her job, saying he could support her.

But the man?s business fell through, and with scant resources, he convinced Kim to return to Korea unmarried. Despite promises to follow her, he vanished.

She ended up in Busan with her parents, who shunned her for giving birth out of wedlock ? a common response in Korean society. ?My mother cooked meals for me, but not for my baby,? she recalled. ?My father did not accept me as part of the family. I ran out of places to turn to.?

Kim may have been alone, but her story is not uncommon in a country where stigmatization and a lack of social services force many women to choose between abortion and adoption. While single mothers have raised their profile in recent years, groups supporting them say that the government must provide them with a safety net and begin to set straight a painful history.

The issue may be set to go under the spotlight as Korea prepares for its first female president, Park Geun-hye, who has promised to improve conditions for women. Support groups say whether Park pays attention to single mothers will be a bellwether of how thoroughly she plans to follow through on this pledge.

As yet, the President-elect?s team has not made specific policies for single mothers and they are not mentioned in its policy book of over 300 pages.

?Right now, they are included in the policies for single parents,? said an official from the policy committee of Park?s Saenuri Party, requesting anonymity. ?Once the transition committee is launched, it is possible that the issues of unmarried mothers can be discussed there.?

Entrenched attitudes

The path for Kim to keep her child was precarious. In need of work, she jumped when she heard of a job in Seoul. But with her family refusing to babysit, she made what she felt was a necessary gamble, leaving the child in the care of an adoption agency, with the promise that if potential adoptive parents were interested, she would be called.

She soon received a text message from a social worker informing her that an adoption had been finalized. ?I cried a lot that I wanted my baby, but I was told it was impossible. After fighting for three months I got her back.?

According to Statistics Korea, some 2.1 percent of babies were born outside of marriage last year, the lowest rate among member nations of the Organization for Economic Cooperation and Development (OECD) and well below the OECD average of 36.3 percent.

Some 90 percent of Korean babies adopted internationally are from single mothers, seen as representative of the social pressures facing unmarried, pregnant women.

Han Seo Seung-hee, who works with the Korean Unwed Mothers Support Network (KUMSN), believes the attitude stems from deeply ingrained Confucian mores. ?Society thinks they are immoral,? she said. The attitude prevails in spite of concerns over the nation?s aging population. Moreover, social stigma against mothers who have children out of wedlock is underpinned by the specific expression in the Korean language referring to them, ?Mi-hon-mo?, often used as a pejorative term.

Lee Jung-hee, a 31-year-old teacher in Gyeonggi Province, said people treated her differently when she decided to give birth to her son after breaking up with her boyfriend, the father.

?You can?t tell people at work, or you have to lie to them. It?s like you are a criminal,? she said.

Even at the hospital, where she received care under her insurance program, the doctor ?suddenly turned really cold? when Lee said the father might not be present at birth. Other hospital officials asked why she did not go to a care center for single mothers.

?That?s when I realized, if you become a single mother in this country, it doesn?t matter if you have a family, if you have a good job or education, or who you are. You just become the bottom of society. People treat you like crap,? she said.

Han said on the national census, if a woman reports being unmarried, it neglects to ask whether she has children. Others point out that existing cash support reinforces the separation of families and institutional help rather than empowering women to raise their children alone.

According to numbers compiled by Truth and Reconciliation for the Adoption Community of Korea (TRACK), the government provides around 1 million won for each child in a family group home facility or an orphanage; and 250,000 won for every child in foster care. Korean families who adopt are supported with a 100,000 stipend. But single parents, including unwed and divorced parent receive 50,000 per month.

Lee, the teacher, didn?t want to be institutionalized in a group home.

?If you stay in such a place for a year, or two, or three, how do you ever start over again? Someone like me _ a professional _ if I get a little support from the government, I can get back on my feet and I am willing to work,? she said.

The monthly support for single parents falls well short of considering unexpected circumstances, Lee learned. Soon after birth, her son was diagnosed with Hirschsprung?s disease, a disorder of the abdomen that required surgery.

Through support from KUMSN, she has been able to hire a babysitter, but her son?s frequent illness poses a problem for her work schedule.

Kim Jung-in, the public relations worker, said stigmatization does not stop with the mother. ?Most families don?t want to have get-togethers with single mothers and their children,? she said.

Reconciling the past, looking ahead

Jane Jeong Trenka, head of TRACK, said the high percentage of international adoptees that comes from unwed mothers binds the two groups together.
International adoptions from Korea picked up pace during the country?s rapid industrialization under the military dictatorship of Park Chung-hee, the late father of President-elect Park. Many such adoptees return to Korea to learn about the country or search for their birth parents.

Some scholars suggest that like other exports of human resources during that era, babies, especially those born out of wedlock, may have been seen as a tidy source of profit.

?The unwed mothers and their children are woven inextricably into the history of Korea?s development,? said Trenka, an adoptee.

She said the stories of the families of adoptees reveal a ?complete lack of a social safety net and of course patriarchal practices which include intense discrimination by the society and the government against single mothers and their children.?

In recent years, grassroots awareness campaigns have helped bring the issue to light. Last year, the National Assembly passed an amendment to the Single Parent Law that by 2015 will ban adoption agencies from owning facilities for unwed mothers, which activists say will reduce the influence of the agencies in the women?s decision-making process.

Groups such as KUMSN say now is the time for the government to devise policies to shore up services.

The advocates say efforts must go beyond Park?s promise to increase cash support from 50,000 won to 150,000 won and bolster housing for single parents.

Activist Han said the government can start by collecting accurate statistics on unwed mothers, because it is believed many women do not report their status. KUMSN urges the incoming administration to consider diversifying housing options, tightening regulations over adoption practices, and providing better education for pregnant, unwed women on their options.

The government should mobilize a public awareness campaign to educate society on unwed women, the group says.

Lee, the mother, says the reasons women like her and their children should be treated as normal members of society are simple.

?I pay taxes, first of all. And then every child has the right to be happy,? she said.

?I gave birth to a kid, and he is going to grow up and work for this country. We can raise these kids and make them happy. People need to be open minded, not just for me, but for the children.? <The Korea Times/Kim Young-jin>

Source: http://www.theasian.asia/archives/52094

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Monday, December 24, 2012

Philosophy of Science Portal: Christmas in 2062

Hot chocolate, warm clothes, and wrapped presents under a tree, ?tis once again the season to be jolly! We are familiar enough with the holidays as they are now; but what might Christmas be like in 50 years?

Of course it's impossible to predict with 100% accuracy how life will change in the next half century, but if we track today's exponentially-advancing technologies; and then add some creative possibilities, we can project a plausible scenario of what it might be like living in our high-tech wonderworld of 2062.

Humanity has much to be thankful for as we trek through the 21st Century. By 2040, scientists have unraveled many of the mysteries surrounding consciousness, which some believe will one day lead to mind-enhancement systems that lower crime rates and reduce violence, making the world a safer place.

Changes are everywhere in 2062. Driverless cars whisk us about; and stem cells, DNA editing and nanobots keep us forever healthy and youthful. Robot servants have become the most popular home acquisition; but Christmas is still our favorite time of year for socializing and exchanging gifts with friends.

Nanotechnology may help the world become a better place in 2062. Powered by personal nanofactories that help create a scarcity-free lifestyle, these nanowonders are slashing the rich-poor gap in developed nations, fighting poverty in third-world countries, and offering the beginnings of a peaceful 'global village'.

Gifts topping Santa's list include interactive 'smart' toys that come alive on voice command and virtual reality systems that provide experiences beyond our wildest dreams. For that special person who has everything, a two-week vacation at the Mars Space Colony can be purchased for $250,000.

Launched in 2050, the space elevator slashed costs of getting people into orbit. The SE has become the prime driver in the booming space tourism industry. Orbit access is now only an elevator ride away.

Trips to space hotels and space amusement parks cost $2,000-$5,000; Moon excursions, $10,000. In addition, faster-than-light hyper-drive ships can now reach the Moon in one hour, Mars in just five hours.

Virtual reality provides irresistible experiences. Neuro-bots enter our mind and replace normal input with software that creates breathtaking simulations of the program requested ? indiscernible from reality.

Entering a Holodeck-like recreation facility, people voice selections for a desired theme, such as a romantic fantasy, winning a 19th-Century American West gunfight, or any other bold scenario that one's mind can conjure up. Simulated adventures have become the rage for entertainment buffs worldwide.

Homes have changed too. Windows and doors can alter their shape, color and location, allowing fresh air and light where needed. Satellites provide house ID via Wi-Fi/thought technology; street addresses no longer necessary. Mind scans restrict access to family and guests, ending the need for locks and keys.

Turkey remains the favorite holiday dish in 2062, but messy food preparation has disappeared. Nano-replicators provide perfect meals that include the exact nutrient requirements for each family member.

With voice command, mom selects the food, which is then served by the household robot. Mom, Dad, Daughter, and Son sit down to eat. Although they live on different continents, all four Grandmas and Grandpas appear as lifelike holograms, and join the festivities for the traditional yuletide toast.

After dinner, the moment has finally arrived ? "let's open presents," Dad says. With a shriek of joy, Daughter opens her gift, a Barbie Doll resembling a mini-human with soft skin and a likable personality. Programmed to require love and attention, the intelligent robo-doll quickly snuggles up to its new owner.

Next, the Son opens his gift, Animal Reality, a 'smart' toy made of nano-components that can change into any animal imagined by its owner. Built-in safeguards prevent creating harmful or illegal objects.

Will the future unfold in this upbeat way? Clearly, the road to 2062 winds around unknown turns, but strong demands for technology improvements drives this vision forward. Happy holidays, everyone; I wish all of my readers the happiest of futures ? in today's world and tomorrow's!

Source: http://philosophyofscienceportal.blogspot.com/2012/12/christmas-in-2062.html

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Wednesday, December 19, 2012

Benghazi review slams State Department on security

WASHINGTON (AP) ? The leaders of an independent panel that blamed systematic State Department management and leadership failures for gross security lapses in the deadly Sept. 11 attack on a U.S. diplomatic mission in Libya will explain their findings to Congress on Wednesday.

The two most senior members of the Accountability Review Board are set to testify behind closed doors before the House and Senate foreign affairs committees on the classified findings of their harshly critical report.

An unclassified version released late Tuesday said serious bureaucratic mismanagement was responsible for the inadequate security at the mission in Benghazi where the U.S. ambassador and three other Americans were killed.

"Systematic failures and leadership and management deficiencies at senior levels within two bureaus of the State Department resulted in a Special Mission security posture that was inadequate for Benghazi and grossly inadequate to deal with the attack that took place," the panel said.

Despite those deficiencies, the board determined that no individual officials ignored or violated their duties and recommended no disciplinary action. But it also said poor performance by senior managers should be grounds for disciplinary recommendations in the future.

Wednesday's classified testimony from the review board ? retired Ambassador Thomas Pickering and a former Joint Chiefs of Staff chairman, Adm. Mike Mullen ? will set the stage for open hearings the next day with Deputy Secretary of State William Burns, who is in charge of policy, and Deputy Secretary of State Thomas Nides, who is in charge of management.

Secretary of State Hillary Rodham Clinton was to have appeared at Thursday's hearing but canceled after fainting and sustaining a concussion last week while recovering from a stomach virus that dehydrated her. Clinton is under doctors' orders to rest.

In a letter that accompanied the transmission of the report to Capitol Hill, Clinton thanked the board for its "clear-eyed, serious look at serious systemic challenges" and said she accepted all of its 29 recommendations to improve security at high-threat embassies and consulates.

She said the department had already begun to implement some of the recommendations. They include increasing by several hundred the number of Marine guards stationed at diplomatic missions throughout the world; relying less on local security forces for protection at embassies, consulates and other offices; and increasing hiring and deployment of highly trained Diplomatic Security agents at at-risk posts.

Clinton agreed with the panel's finding that Congress must fully fund the State Department's security initiatives. The panel found that budget constraints in the past had led some management officials to emphasize savings over security, including rejecting numerous requests from the Benghazi mission and the embassy in Tripoli for enhanced protection.

It singled out the Bureau of Diplomatic Security and the Bureau of Near East Affairs for criticism, saying there appeared to be a lack of cooperation and confusion over protection at the mission in Benghazi, a city in Eastern Libya that was relatively lawless after the revolution that toppled Libyan strongman Moammar Gadhafi.

But it appeared to break little new ground about the timeline of the Benghazi attack during which Libyan Ambassador Chris Stevens, information specialist Sean Smith and former Navy SEALs Glen Doherty and Tyrone Woods ? who were contractors working for the CIA ? were killed. Stevens' slaying was the first of a U.S. ambassador since 1988.

The board determined that there had been no immediate, specific tactical warning of a potential attack on the 11th anniversary of Sept. 11, 2001. However, the report said there had been several worrisome incidents in the run-up to the attack that should have set off warning bells.

It did confirm, though, that contrary to initial accounts, there was no protest outside the consulate. It said responsibility for the incident rested entirely with the terrorists who attacked the mission.

In the immediate aftermath of the attack, administration officials linked the attack to the spreading protests that had begun in Cairo earlier that day over an American-made, anti-Islamic film. Those comments came after evidence already pointed to a distinct militant attack.

United Nations Ambassador Susan Rice appeared on numerous TV talk shows the Sunday after the attack and used the administration talking points linking it to the film. An ensuing brouhaha in the heat of the presidential campaign eventually led her to withdraw her name from consideration to replace Hillary Rodham Clinton as secretary of state in President Barack Obama's second term.

While criticizing State Department management in Washington along with the local militia force and contract guards that the mission depended on for protection, the report said U.S. personnel on the ground in Benghazi "performed with courage and readiness to risk their lives to protect their colleagues in a near-impossible situation."

It said the response by Diplomatic Security agents on the scene and CIA operatives at a nearby compound that later came under attack itself had been "timely and appropriate" and absolved the military from any blame. "There was simply not enough time for armed U.S. military assets to have made a difference," it said.

The report also discounted speculation that officials in Washington had refused appeals for additional help after the attack had begun.

"The Board found no evidence of any undue delays in decision making or denial of support from Washington or from the military combatant commanders," it said. To the contrary, the report said the evacuation of the dead and wounded 12 hours after the initial attack was due to "exceptional U.S. government coordination and military response" that helped save the lives of two seriously wounded Americans.

Source: http://news.yahoo.com/benghazi-review-slams-state-department-security-080754224--politics.html

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Whether you?re an ace down the black runs or more the type that appreciates the snow from the inside looking out, I think we can all agree that there?s just something magical about being in the mountains during the wintertime. The air is crisp, fluffy white snow everywhere, apr?s ski at a mountainside firepit, folks truly enjoying themselves. ?Tis the season for ski vacations, and here are my picks to get you there in proper Taigan-style,

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Countdown to the Sugar Bowl: Florida vs. Louisville Game Notes

After finishing the regular season 11-1 (7-1 SEC), Florida was selected to the Allstate Sugar Bowl to face Big East Champion Louisville (10-2, 5-2 Big East). This will be just the third meeting between the two schools (1980, 1992) and the first in a bowl game.

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UF has claimed a school-record four-consecutive bowls and will be making its eighth-consecutive January Bowl appearance, the longest active streak in the nation. In addition, the Gators will be appearing in a BCS Bowl for the seventh time, tops in the SEC and tied for the third-best total nationally. Florida?s total of five BCS Bowl wins is tied for the top total in the nation and with a victory it will have the top total in the nation in all-time BCS wins. UF will be making its 40th Bowl appearance.

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? ?Florida currently has a school-record 4-game bowl win streak. UF and Florida State are tied for the most active bowl wins with four each. Florida is 20-19 all-time in bowl games.

? ?Head Coach Will Muschamp is the only first time head coach at a BCS-conference school to win 11 regular-season games in his second season after finishing .500 or worse the previous regular season in records back to 1996.

? ?Florida improved from a 6-6 regular season in 2011 to an 11-1 regular season in 2012. The five-game turnaround in the regular season marked the biggest one-year leap for the program in 32 years (0-10-1 in 1979, 7-4 regular season in 1980).

? ?In UF history, 6 teams have started a season 11-1 or better through 12 games. This year marks the fifth time that the Gators have won 11 games in the regular season (1995, 2006, 2008, 2009, 2012).

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? ?The Gators finished the regular season ranked No. 3 in the BCS Standings, marking their third-highest finish in the final BCS poll. UF finished No. 2 in 2006 and 2008, winning the BCS National Championship both times.

? ?Florida defeated 3 top-10 opponents this season for the second time in school history and are 4-1 against ranked opponents. UF?s four wins against ranked opponents is tied for the second-most in the nation (Stanford, 5).

? ?Florida beat 7 bowl-eligible teams against the nation?s toughest schedule according to NCAA and are 7-1 against bowl teams.

? ?The Gators are 4-1 against current BCS Top 12 teams. The top 2 in the BCS are a combined 4-1 against BCS Top 12 teams.

? ?In 5 games against top-12 BCS opponents, the Gators? average score was 24.8-15.4. UF limited those opponents to 259.6 ypg and forced 15 turnovers. Only one of those 5 ?opponents gained over 300 yards of offense against Florida (TAMU - 334, its lowest output of the season).

? ?The Gator defense has allowed just 12.9 points per game, the fewest in school history since 1964 (9.8).

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Monday, December 17, 2012

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Saturday, December 15, 2012

Chief Executive Boards Blog: Outsourcing Self-Discipline


Accountability is essential within your business. You want people doing what they're supposed to be doing and what they said they would do. Accountability to yourself is important, too, but what if you don't have enough? Outsource that.

An important ingredient in personal accountability is self-discipline - the ability to make yourself do things you should and not do things you shouldn't. Yet, according to Chip and Dan Heath in their book Switch: How to Change Things When Change Is Hard, "self control is an exhaustible resource." Think about it. Every 12-step program is based on changing the person's environment and behaviors, rather than relying on?self-control and admonitions like "don't drink too much or "don't eat too much". If self-control and self-discipline are your only strategies for improvement, your likelihood of a relapse is huge.

What to do? One Chief Executive Boards International member said?he's outsourced self-discipline of his calendar and personal chores. He had regularly missed appointments, double-booked appointments, missed deadlines, missed tax filing dates, etc. He just didn't have very good systems in place to manage and discipline his time and his calendar. Of course, he could have gone and taken a?seminar or adopted a system to help with that or just decided to be more self-disciplined about managing his calendar.

No, he decided, "I'm an extreme case. I don't think I can fix myself by myself." So he outsourced his self-discipline. He hired a personal assistant and handed her 100% control of his calendar. If he wants to meet with someone, he emails or texts her to set it up. If someone wants to meet with him, he refers them to her. She's scheduling his business life, his volunteer life and his personal life. Extreme, you say? How bad is the problem? What would it be worth to have it fixed? And what else could a personal assistant do to improve the business?
Another member said he'd done the same thing in health and exercise. He hired a personal trainer. He's accountable to her. If she's going to be at the gym, he'll be there, too. After all, he's polite - he wouldn't stand someone up for an appointment. He's just not very self-disciplined about going to the gym on his own. He said, "I know I'm going to get a good workout and that I'll make time for it."

Think about it. Do you perhaps need a coach, a trainer, an assistant or a teacher to help you with some part of your life? A big part of that is the self-discipline you outsource as part of that engagement. ?
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Good Reads: American manufacturing, Apple's new CEO, and a father-son journey to meet two presidents

A round-up of this week's long-form good reads include takes on America's manufacturing power, how religion is faring in the US, and the power of seeing a son in a new light.

By Dave Cook,?Staff writer / December 14, 2012

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Things may finally be looking up for US manufacturing, James Fallows argues in the December issue of The Atlantic.?

Even in its battered condition, the American manufacturing sector is still the largest in the world, but its share of the US economy has declined from 20 percent in the early 1980s to just over 10 percent today. In the process, many high-paying jobs moved to China and other lower-wage countries, while Rust Belt communities in the United States were hard hit.

Two trends are likely to get trade winds blowing toward America again, Mr. Fallows contends. First, new technologies emerging in the US, such as 3-D printing, make it easier and faster to design, build, and refine products. Three-dimensional printing allows firms to use computerized molding systems to produce prototypes in minutes or hours. ?A revolution is coming to the creation of things, comparable to the Internet?s effect on the creation and dissemination of ideas,? one industrial design expert told Fallows.

At the same time, tumultuous changes in China are reducing its manufacturing advantages, complicating life for outsourcers and exporters. ?In China, wages are rising, workers are becoming choosier, public resistance to environmental devastation is growing, and the Chinese ?investment led? model is showing strain,? Fallows says.?

Apple?s new CEO

Apple chief executive officer Tim Cook talked extensively about management and corporate creativity in an interview with Bloomberg Businessweek editor Josh Tyrangiel.

Mr. Cook succeeded Apple?s late co-founder Steve Jobs. Mr. Jobs was a major shareholder in the Walt Disney Company and had seen how executives there wasted time trying to figure out what Disney himself would have done after the founder of the company had passed away. Jobs ?removed a tremendous burden for me,? Cook says, by instructing, ?I never want you to ask what I would have done. Just do what is right.?

Apple has taken heat for poor working conditions at massive Foxconn Technology Group factories in China where many of its products are assembled. Cook told Businessweek that Apple would start producing one line of its Mac computers in the US in 2013 ? a modest sign of the brightening prospects for US manufacturing mentioned above.

Creativity, in Cook?s definition, is ?people who care enough to keep thinking about something until they find the simplest way to do it.? He laughed about corporate innovation departments saying that having one ?is always a sign that something is wrong ... you know, put a for sale sign on the door.?

Source: http://rss.csmonitor.com/~r/feeds/csm/~3/uF1QmfGsiOE/Good-Reads-American-manufacturing-Apple-s-new-CEO-and-a-father-son-journey-to-meet-two-presidents

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